Tuesday
Feb102004

Life Is More Than A Moment

On Labor Day 1957 Elizabeth Eckford, 15 was one of nine students who attempted to enroll at all white Central High School in Little Rock, Arkansas. She was turned away by Arkansas National Guardsmen. As she walked away she was tormented by another teenager named Hazel Bryan. This photo taken by William Counts has been called one of the top 100 photographs of the century by the Associated Press. Full Story here.



Elizabeth Eckford, Little Rock, AR




Forty years later, the photographer who took the photo, William Counts, arranged a meeting between the two women. Although Hazel had phoned Elizabeth to apologize years later, the two never met until 1997. Hazel Massery had been the poster child for hate. She once said, "Life is more than a moment." One moment in time had defined her life for a generation. People change.



Reunion of Eckford and Massery







Here are a few more photos from the Civil Rights Movement of the 50's and 60's. I used these in a four minute movie I made last year about the Civil Rights Movement. You can watch it here. This is an mp4 about 9mb. When you go to the page, the movie will download automatically. If you have broadband, the download will take one and a half to two minutes.






Civil Rights Photo


Civil Rights Photo


Civil Rights Photo


Civil Rights Photo






On April 4, 1968 I was 11 years old. I was watching television with my brother when the news flash came on that Martin Luther King, Jr. had been shot and killed. My brother said, "good, that will teach that nigger." I did not know who Martin Luther King was, but my mother walked into the room and asked what the news flash was about. I told her Martin Luther King had been killed, then I repeated what my brother had said only moments earlier, "that will show that nigger." My mother slapped my mouth and said in a very stern voice, "you never use that kind of language or take joy in someone's death again." I was shocked and confused, but it is a memory vivid to this day. For one reason, it is about the only time I can remember my mother laying a hand on me except for the time I was caught teaching the neighbor boy how to curse. What would follow in the coming days would be a turmoil our country had not known.



At the time, I was attending the Kansas School for the Blind. I missed a couple of days, because there were riots near the school. There were riots all over the country. Looking back it seems so strange, but our country was at a boiling point.



The movie I made contains vintage photos and video of the Civil Rights Movement. Voices of Civil Rights Leaders are included. Making the movie, I gained more respect for the people who demonstrated for their rights and to seek the freedoms guaranteed by our constitution. Those people demonstrated "civil disobedience." In return they were beaten, attacked by dogs, unfairly harassed, ridiculed, and some were killed. Why? Because they were black - because they were different - because of fear - because of ignorance. They shed blood for their cause and in the end, they overcame.



I am not saying racism is conquered, but the Civil Rights Movement resulted in legislative change. What a contrast to today. Individuals often see racism behind every bush. Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton run their self-serving campaigns under the guise of eliminating some form of racism. These and others like them are not worthy to be mentioned in the same breath as some of these nameless people who suffered physical harm for their cause.



People are not equal. Some are smarter, prettier, richer, funnier, faster, stronger, and so on. We are born to a class, a race, a country, and parents not of our choosing. Life does not care which set of variables you were given. Most people do not either. Success is up to the individual or a long wait will ensue. My life has not been a greased path to success. Maybe I enjoyed "white privilege," if so I was not aware of it. I know some have it better than me and some have it worse. Either way, it matters little, because, I have to make it myself. I had to go to school every day. I have to go to work every day. For these opportunities I am grateful, but I had to add a heaping portion of elbow grease.



As a white male, I am often told I cannot even have an opinion. I am not a woman so I cannot talk about abortion. I am not black so how can I understand racism? I am not gay so how can I be expected to have the right opinion about hate crimes? I am not a lot of things. I am trying to understand and I remain open, but I refuse to accept responsibility for someone else's happiness and success.



Today, Warren Sapp the football player makes millions of dollars but compares his situation to that of slaves. Jesse Jackson shakes down companies in the name of correcting racial injustice. Al Sharpton tells a girl to lie about an attack to stir things up. These people are not defenders of their race. They are self serving individuals who are abusing their opportunity. They dishonor Martin Luther King, Jackie Robinson, and others who suffered, but blazed the trail for those who would follow.



I am responsible "for" myself and my family. I am responsible "to" my community. What I have said about being responsible is not a white thing, it is a success thing. Blacks, Whites, Asians, Hispanics, and every other race under the sun are more limited by their own beliefs than they are oppressed.



Injustice will be around as long as people live. We must all do our part to make our little part of the earth just and fair. We are powerful if we work together. As Cheekysquirrel pointed out yesterday in the comments, diversity is what makes life interesting. Instead of fearing what is different we should explore it and appreciate it for what it is - just something different.



Until the next time

John Strain

Monday
Feb092004

Too Much "Us" and "Them", Not enough "I" and "Me"

Racism is one of those topics which evokes strong feelings from people regardless of their color. My purpose in writing is to make us all think, challenge, and reexamine our current views on the topic. I approach a discussion of racism with some trepidation. I realize the subject of race is a tender box awaiting a small spark to ignite a firestorm of visceral hyperbole. However, if two sides in an argument shout at each other, then no one is listening and hope is lost for any progress.



Anyone who speaks about race and racism is of course a member of a race themselves. I am caucasian. I do not have a racial agenda or a particular ax to grind. My purpose here is to first, state the positions of each side in the racial debate, and second express my personal views about race and racism. I invite your input.




• What is the definition of racism?

• Can a black person be a racist?

• Can a white person be the victim of racism?



How you answer these questions positions you along a continuum in the race debate.



Racism Defined:


Webster’s dictionary defines racism as “a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. Many activist describe racism as prejudice + power = racism. Many people who subscribe to this activist definition of racism believe that Black people in the United States cannot be racist because they do not have the power to effect other groups and White people in particular. As a facilitator, trainer and activist in the fight against all forms of bigotry and for the expansion of peace and justice I have on occasion been confronted with the question in one form or another, “Can a White person be the victim of racism?” - Michael T. Mc Phearson




Some good reads:

Several articles from a black point of view.

White Washing "The Dream" With Divisiveness

Racial Double Standards and Dusty Baker's Quip

Can A Dog Be Racist?

What Is White Privilege?

Basics of Racism




Problems in racism discussions:

• Blacks and whites are referred to as if monolithic.

• The media is conflict oriented and favors extremists fighting opposed to orderly forums.

• Extremists are often held up as spokesmen for an entire race.

• Feelings are so strong on both sides, many simply choose to keep quiet on the issue and avoid personal attacks.




Racism is a human problem. One race is not more or less racist than any other. Therefore, I can experience racism and I have. However, according to Michael T. McPhearson, blacks are victims of institutional racism. While whites may have experienced racism, it cannot be compared with the racism blacks endure.



This discussion often becomes a recitation of who was discriminated against the most and the worst. It is a contest to show who is the real victim. Both sides contradict themselves.

It is important for Black people who fight for equality and justice to label all racist beliefs and acts for what they are, racism. To do less diminishes the moral argument to join the fight against racism and appeals to group affiliation. This is in itself racist. It also hurts Black people as we strive to form coalitions and help people see the morale outrage of racism. We cannot argue against an action or belief one minute and defend the same act or belief the next minute because of a change in skin color. Conversely we cannot allow arguments of reverse discrimination obscure the effects of institutionalized racism and White privilege. But if we are not honest with ourselves about our own racism, against ourselves and others, we help to obscure the issues; and that my friends we cannot afford to do. - McPhearson






I have a few things to say about racism and how it is addressed. I will not do all of that in this post for the sake of length. However, I will explain the post title. If race relations are to improve, people will speak their own mind and heart to others who will listen with their mind and heart. Racism will continue if we do not find a better way to discuss the problems. If I use words like "them" and "us", I can use blame and victimhood much easier. If, however, I use terms like "I" and "me," I am being more specific. It is one thing to discuss things hypothetically. It is quite different to talk to an individual. We need fresh talk devoid of any victim rhetoric or chips on the shoulder.



A black man may look at me and have little compassion for any racism or discrimination I have endured as an individual, because he compares it to what his race has experienced. Blacks were slaves and did not receive full protection against racism until the late 1960's.



I as a white person may feel that I can understand racism since it may happen to me, but I am often told I cannot and therefore can never understand what a black man feels. This minimizes and discounts my experience even if there is some truth to it.



The discussion is so polarized and emotionally charged that emissaries from either side are shot down. Well meaning, well intentioned people eventually "give up" under the other side's attacks usually from extremists.



I know this. I do recognize a person's race. I have certain ideas about that race which are generally correct (prejudice). I try to be aware of my prejudice so as not to act toward an individual with a general preconceived notion. I attempt to deal with each individual as an individual. I respect people based on their actions. I do not like or dislike people based on race.



In my mind, I think that is enough. I am willing to entertain the thought that it may not be enough as far as racism is concerned. I am willing to look at things like "white privilege" and "institutional racism" and examine my own participation in them. This goes against my grain though for the reasons I stated about my personal way of relating to others.



If I am guilty of racism, even if I am not doing anything myself, I am placed in a no win situation. The black man is put in a no lose situation and many times, blacks use this way of thinking (white privilege, institutional racism) as cover to fly their own bias and racism under the radar.



The discussion must involve more talk about individuals to individuals and not hypothetical talk about us and them. I cannot effect "them." I can effect "me."






We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. Declaration of Independence, July 4, 1776



I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character. Martin Luther King, August 28, 1963






I have laid out several ideas I understand to be important in discussions of race. Tomorrow I will share more of my opinions, but as for now, what do you think. How can we improve things? How can we better discuss the issue? Can we ever get to the point where race is not going to be an issue?



Until the next time

John Strain

Sunday
Feb082004

Billboards You'd Like To See

I received this via email from my sister in law Lisa. If you like these there are 25 more here.



Billboards



Until the next time

John Strain

Sunday
Feb082004

Taking A Breather

I am not going to shy away from controversy as I write this week, but I am taking a breather today. My initial plan was to address a "hot button" topic each day last week. However, I found I needed more time to prepare the post, time to think about and respond to the comments, and a break in between topics. I used my head and my heart a lot last week. I was stretched in my thinking and awareness and ultimately in my compassion and understanding.



The comic relief was necessary for balance. I, at least, do not prefer to walk around carrying the banner for some "cause" all the time. Life is a lot of things. It is tragic. It is chalk full of causes I should be about, but life is also funny and ironic. If I / we become so serious we do not see the humor, then we won't be very much fun at parties. Balance is an important word to keep in mind. If you are stressed, most likely something is out of balance. We need work, play, fun, thought, exercise, and all that stuff. Keeping balance requires many small adjustments as in riding a bicycle. Not making the adjustments will soon have you in the ditch.




Marathon update: My race is one month from today. Yesterday was a 13 miler to be run fast. I was pleased with my time of 1 hour 41 minutes and 30 seconds. That is about a 7:45 pace per mile. Next week is another 20 miler then we begin tapering down for the race. My post of September 20, 2003 was my public announcement of taking the pledge. I had let myself go and was officially on the fitness wagon again. Since then I have lost 22 lbs. (192 lbs. now) and probably dropped a few dress sizes as well. Today, however, is a rest day. I am sipping fresh brewed french roast. I like dark coffee and dark beer.




The Jamie Leigh fiasco: For those of you who may not understand what has happened on my site the past few days I will attempt an explanation.



Monday: I posted about the Super Bowl halftime show. I took issue with Janet exposing herself because of where she was and how what she did was breaking the rules and disrespecting people who do not like that sort of thing. The time and place were wrong.



Thursday: I posted a photo of my own right breast as a tongue and cheek copy cat flashing / publicity stunt.



Friday: I posted a photo of a football with a nipple ring on it, compliments of my pal Claude.

Comments were numerous and funny. Folks had a good time ribbing me and themselves as we put the whole "Titgate" controversy in its proper place.



Saturday: I checked comments and had two with photos from Jamie Leigh. One comment in the Thursday post and another in the Friday post. She shared a photo of her right breast. A nice gesture, none of my other readers has done with the exception of Mary Lou. So it looks like Jamie is famous. Her website looks professional and there seemed to be a tinge of suggestive, sexual, whatever. I, being the sleuth that I am, go to Google and found lots of Jamie Leigh stuff all referring to a porn queen. I, jumping to conclusions, as I sometimes do figure it is this Jamie Leigh who shared a part of herself with me. I being a man am flattered, no, proud, no, damn proud. I did not think she "wanted me," but I had some bragging rights with my friends at least. My wife was less amused, but nothing serious there either. Barbara knows me and figures she has the inside track on keeping me, the prize that I am with all of my "stuff."



The next step was to share this wonderful news with the world and let the ladies weigh in. I figured they would side with Barbara. I was getting a laugh out of the whole "man - woman communication thing." It was all going as expected when Jamie makes another comment. She is not the porn queen and though polite, probably not amused I confused the two. Oops. I quickly commented / groveled back and expressing my sincere apologies to the amusement of the Saturday afternoon blog readers. Dennis was getting a kick out of it, which tells me he has been in similar circumstances, come on Dennis confess or Kim will give you up. Hahaha.



That is it. No porn queen of any fame commented on my blog. It was not a goal of mine, but I saw it as serendipity. I do take some pleasure and bragging rights that I did receive a mysterious breast shot. That is something and certainly appreciated. Barbara got a good laugh, "see, I knew it didn't sound right."



Without blogging I would probably have been working in my yard and missed all of this. I will let you decide which would have been better.




Sneak preview for tomorrow. I am going to tackle the subject of race.



Enjoy your Sunday folks,



Until the next time,

John Strain

Saturday
Feb072004

Blogging Can Get You In Trouble With Your Wife, Sort Of

To my surprise, delight, amazement, and a few other emotions. I found two comments from Jamie Leigh. One in the comments on the NFL commemorative football and one comment about "If you can't beat them, join them." She shared a right side view photo. Now, Jamil Leigh's name sounded familiar, but I did not really know who she was. Since she provided the link back to her site, there was no need to call a private investigator. I am not sure how she came across my site, but maybe it is because one of her movies carries the name "Abuse of Power," which incidentally is the name of my post on Friday.



Well, I was happy on a few levels. The first level of happiness was someone semi-famous dropped by and left a comment. The second level of happiness was thinking about all of the milage I was going to get when I told my "boyz." I was also quite pleased I had over 130 hits yesterday. I realize I can't keep this up. The body part card has now been played so I will have to think of something else, but it was good for a lot of laughs. Then following Jamie Leigh's comment was one from Martini Zero inviting me to rip her clothes off and expose her breast at a little league game this summer. In the 25 Mardi Gras' I have attended, never did anyone make a request such as that.



My wife sensed my happiness and realized the rate at which my head was swelling could unbalance the power structure of our relationship. Therefore, she launched operation "deflate my arrogant husband's head." I felt like we were reenacting the scene from "A Christmas Story," in which the father won a leg lamp. He was proud of it, but the wife hated it. As they argued, he said, "you are jealous of the lamp." I now know a woman can be jealous of a lamp and certainly a comment on a blog.



I would like to poll some of you ladies out there. (If Dick were to write that last sentence, he would have spelled "poll" differently, hehe.) What would you do if your husband got some comments from Jamie Leigh and he was damn proud of them? Would you celebrate with him? Launch into operation "deflate," "ass kick," or "bitch?" Would you do something entirely different?



I know I won't understand anything you tell me because men and women will never understand each other, but it is a hell of a lot of fun trying.



Happy Saturday Gang,



Until the next time

John Strain