Thursday
Nov252004

Happy Thanksgiving





Turkey


I am thankful for a lot, and especially for you folks who read my words and leave your comments. It is my most sincere hope and prayer that your Thanksgiving Holiday is a good one and that it represents a positive beginning to an even better holiday season.



Until the next time

John Strain

Wednesday
Nov242004

Denial, Greed, and the WWF NBA



Friday night's NBA brawl has been the topic this week. At the end of the Pacers vs. Pistons game a court scuffle expanded to the stands after a plastic bottle was thrown at a player. In the aftermath, the NBA has thrown one player out for the season and given multi game suspensions to others involved. Police are reviewing the videotapes and interviewing witnesses to make arrests, the NBA Players Union is appealing the punishments, and the airwaves are saturated with discussion about the ugly incident. How could this happen? Why did it happen?



It is not surprising it happened at all if you consider who was involved. NBA players are made up of men age 18 and up. Some are fresh out of high school. They are highly paid and they have learned from experience rules that apply to others do not apply to them.



I have seen it in our own city's recreation league and it is a common thing. Boys who play well get away with bad sportsmanship, arrogance, and bad manners. As the player progresses through school sports, people look the other way at his bad behavior as long as he plays well and wins games for the team.



Grades are fixed, violated rules are not punished, excuses are made, the team wins, and the boy's character suffers more and more. Bad behavior is rewarded with press coverage, complimentary things, and opportunities others rarely have. The coach protects his player the administration sides with the coach and the teachers buckle under. Charges of racism are used to gain cooperation from any teacher or individual trying to hold the boy accountable.



So he sails through school never reaping what he has sown. He learns that winning gains privileges. Rules are for other people and he is special. Our athletes get second, third, fourth, and fifth chances. In my younger days, athletes had the image of being and setting an example, I know they were not perfect, but they tried to project a good image. Today it seems the opposite.



I graduated from college when I was 22, then I went to graduate school until I was 25. After that, I was engaged in doctoral work until I was 33. I worked two jobs or whatever I had to do to make ends meet. I was doing what I wanted to do. My reward was satisfaction of setting a goal and seeing it through. I was being prepared for the work I had chosen. The process helped my character.



By contrast, the blue chip athlete is courted by universities. They visit one school after another and get the red carpet treatment. Once they choose a school, someone greases the path for them through the paper work and registration process. Everything is handled for them. The player's ego is growing at a break neck pace, but they are not learning how to deal with bureaucracy like the other students. They are not learning humility and gratitude like the other students.



A star is born if they continue to play well. They are seen on national television, they fly from city to city where the press seeks audience with them. They get free meals, all expenses paid, and someone takes care of the details.



Then one day they enter the NBA draft, usually without a college degree. They are given millions of dollars to play the game they started as a child. Now they are rubbing shoulders with the world's celebrities. They are celebrities themselves. No matter what the player does, someone excuses it. Crimes are forgiven, rude behavior is overlooked, and bizarre behavior is hailed as individual expression. The monster is now complete. Is it any wonder one of these over-paid, under-educated, under-socialized babies would jump over a table and beat on someone half his size if he felt disrespected?



Our society has created this monster. How do we fix it? A lot of people need to do the right thing. Parents need to mold their children from the beginning. Bad manners and poor sportsmanship must be dealt with at home. Coaches should reinforce the values of team play, sportsmanship, and honor. Schools and other institutions must hold the great player as accountable as any other individual. If all of this is done correctly, the individual will be mature at age 18 and he will govern himself. Rules only work if people observe them.



A backdoor solution is for fans to stop pouring money into the monster machine. Our dollars make all of this possible. If these players had to do something other than basketball, they would be moving furniture or flipping burgers at McDonalds. Oh, I forgot, there is always the Rap Industry.



Self-control is a result of a process beginning in childhood and nurtured until adulthood. It is something we learn. These NBA players have not gone through that process and as a result they still act like spoiled brats.



Until the next time

John Strain

Tuesday
Nov232004

Jinx



I am about ready to make a deal with the devil for one of my teams to win a championship. I must be a jinx, because the team I root for loses 99% of the time. Here are the four teams I pull for:



The Kansas City Royals - Baseball - Last championship 1985

The Kansas City Chiefs - Football - Last championship 1970

The New Orleans Saints - Football - Never won a championship

The Kansas Jayhawks - NCAA Basketball - Last championship 1988




I invest a lot of time and money pulling for these guys and I usually wind up disappointed. I am a fan though and am faithful. Some folks pull for whoever is winning. Each year, they have a new team. I can't do that. There is no glory in such a victory. I know I am not the only person who thinks this way. Boston can't complain anymore, but Chicago can.



The Royals will never win until the baseball owners do something about salary caps. They cannot compete with the large market teams. The Chiefs have been close, but leave me hanging every year. The Saints presently do not disappoint, because they are not even expected to win. The Jayhawks have been in the Final Four 2 of the last 3 years, but have come up short.



As I write this, the Chiefs are about to lose the Monday Night Football game. That is more pain and agony. Each year I just hope the team that is in season can keep up the suspense until the next season begins. The Chiefs are out of the playoffs barring a miracle, but the Jayhawks season is just beginning. College basketball takes me to baseball season. Lately, the Royal's season is over in May. I just have to gut it out until the beginning of football and then it all repeats.



Why do I put myself through it? I cannot control it, but somehow, I must be. Is it what I am wearing or what I am thinnking? What am I doing to cause the bad luck? I wish I knew. It couldn't be the people actually playing the games could it?



Until the next time

Jinx Strain

Monday
Nov222004

Fishing In Venice, Louisiana







John holds a red fishMe and LJ at Cypress Cove MarinaRoy holds a red fish




Map to Venice, LAVenice, Louisiana is almost a three hour drive from my house. The small town is at the end of the road in Louisiana. Highway 23 follows the west bank of the Mississippi River on a narrow sliver of land. People who live this far south in our state are used to evacuating their homes when hurricanes make it to the gulf. We arrived just after dark Saturday night. The Cypress Cove Marina, was our choice for lodging, it is a newer facility complete with a hotel and store. We ate at a local restaurant called Barbara's Place. Over some gumbo and fried seafood, we met our guide, Captain Jesse Parker. Captain Jesse promised us we would catch fish the next day.



After a good night's sleep, we headed for the store where we were to meet Captain Jesse. John and I had to purchase a fishing license. The morning was beautiful. As you can see from the photos, the sky was orange with pre dawn colors. The air was cool and damp and a light fog rested on the waters. I could hear water lapping against the dock, the purr of boat motors warming up, gulls and pelicans squeaking and honking, and voices of expectant fishermen.



As the sky continued its kaleidoscope of red and orange color, we sailed out of the marina and out to the Mississippi River headed for its mouth and open water. The first 15 minutes or so took us through varying degrees of fog concealing and revealing land and other craft. The 130 HP Honda boat motor pushed us quickly through the smooth, glassy water and its hum was hypnotic. We traveled through corridors of cane and passed different structures in the water. Some were for navigational purposes, and some were Oil Company related. We saw every kind of boat from shrimp boats to tankers. Flocks of pelicans flew lazily along the grass that sprouted out of the gulf. In the early morning light the colors were quite vivid and I felt very lucky to be alive and to be seeing such beauty.



Approximately 45 minutes from the marina, Captain Jesse stopped the boat and dropped anchor some 100 feet from an oilrig. This rig was near lock 69. The oilrigs are good places for fishing. They are essentially a man made reef. We fished using open face reels and live shrimp. The technique was to hook a treble hook just behind the shrimp’s horn, cast toward the rig, then raise the bait off the bottom and reel a bit. Hopefully a big red fish or trout is attracted to the activity and bites.



We did well at the rig. I caught all of my fish there, (5 fish - 4 trout and one big red fish.) John and little Roy put Big Roy and me to shame. They caught more than twice what we did.




True Fish Story: The one that got away, but came back.

While fishing at the rig, I hooked a big one. I didn't know how big, because he got away. It is exciting to be holding a fishing pole that is bending in half. He wasn't the kind of fish you just reel in - he was a fighter. Captain Jesse was giving me instructions, “Do this, don't let him do that.” He would laugh, his dry sense of humor was coming out and it was hard to tell what was real advice and what was teasing, but it was fun. The fish headed for the front of the boat and I went with him. Poles were being passed over and around me as I hurried past the others and trying to avoid the anchor rope Captain Jesse warned me about. Then I got hung up in the trolling motor. This fish was going around the boat like a prospective buyer. Still tugging and struggling and hoping, but it became apparent the fish was hung up in the anchor rope. Then the worst feeling of all, the pulling stopped and the lack of tension on my line confirmed the line had broken. "Damn," I said, "I wish I could have at least seen how big he was." The other guys were disappointed too, but that did not stop them from teasing. Guys tease constantly and our good-natured teasing was part of the fun.



After a couple of hours, Captain Jesse announced we were going to another spot, “So pull in your lines.” I said, "I am going to give it one more cast to see if I can catch that big one again." We all laughed at my words, after all, what are the odds of catching the same fish twice? Working the shrimp on the bottom for the last time payed off. I got a hit and I could tell by the pull that I had another big one. This time he headed for the back of the boat. "Don't lose this one," Captain Jesse said rubbing it in and putting some good-natured pressure on me. I reeled and the fish pulled out more line, but the fish finally tired and he was netted. There are emotional moments in the process. The initial hooking of the fish is exciting, and then nervousness sets in, as you don't want to lose the fish. Once you see the fish and it is a big one, you become even more nervous, because you are so close, but there is little satisfaction unless the fish makes it into the boat. When the fish is in the net, there is relief, joy, and pride. This emotional rollercoaster happens quickly and it is a real rush.



Roy caught a bigger red fish later in the day, but this was the biggest one at that point, probably 15 to 20 pounds. As the captain was taking the hook out of the fish, he noticed it had another treble hook in its mouth. It was the same fish that broke my line an hour before. As we left the spot, I felt pretty good. The one that got away came back and I got him.




The weather was beautiful. The early morning ride out to the rig was chilly in the damp, cool 30 mph air. Once stopped, it warmed quickly. The temperature was mid 70's and the sun burned. I have the red face and neck to prove it.



The next spot we fished was around the reeds. The red fish seek shelter in the reeds and one way to get them is to cast up in to them and reel back out. Because we were getting low on shrimp, we switched to lures. I never got another bite, but John and Roy kept reeling them in. They each caught some nice fish. Roy got the biggest red fish.



We eventually got enough fishing in us so we headed home. We were back at the marina by 2:30 PM to make it an 8-hour trip. The boat pulled up to the cleaning station. This area was designed for cleaning fish. There is a nice counter with water to clean the fish and electricity to power the electric fillet knife. The fish were transferred from the boat to a cart, then to the cleaning table.



On the other side of the cleaning table was the water. Pelicans gathered awaiting fish scraps, which were thrown by the fishermen cleaning their catch. Captain Jesse enlisted John to help with the fillet process. The scraps not thrown to the pelicans were piled on the dock. There was a huge pile of fish carcasses, which would later be fed into a grinder and thrown back into the water.



After that, it was back to the truck for the ride home. It was fun and unique for me. I loved being out in the "wild." All in all, we saw turtles, alligators, hawks, pelicans, egrets, fish, and nutria, even cows. Not a bad way for two fathers and two sons to spend a November weekend in south Louisiana.



Until the next time

John Strain

Saturday
Nov202004

Honoring A Hero



I attended the funeral of Justin McLeese today. I will write about the details later. For now, I want to share a photo and poem from the funeral flyer. The funeral honored Justin's sacrifice and celebrated his life. It was a day of tears. It was heart wrenching. Please pray for Justin's family as they grieve.

Justin McLeese died in Iraq Nov. 13, 2004 age 19
I'm Free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God laid for me.

I took His hand when I heard Him call;

I turned my back and left it all.



I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I found that place at the close of day.



If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joy.

A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;

Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.



Be not burdened with times of sorrow

I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.



Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and share with me,

God wanted me now, He set me free.


Justin's FuneralJustin's FuneralJustin's Funeral
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Until the next time

John Strain